This is the second installment of our “Love Lessons” column. Every week, we publish a mini-essay (100-250 words) about a single thing that can make or break a relationship. To submit your own entry, email firstname.lastname@example.org.
The most popular post I’ve ever written on my blog is called, “Phasin’.” In that post, I wrote about the honeymoon phase which is supposed to be the first 90 days of any relationship. Today, I still believe that the honeymoon phase does not have to end — or it can, at least, last a much longer time than three months.
Chris and I have been together two years and it still feels at least a little like we’re in that honeymoon phase. I think a large part of this has to do with the fact that we make each other feel loved every day. We do small things for one another and we say “I love you” to each other a million times a day.
Knowing that we care about each other is half the battle of keeping that honeymoon feeling alive and maintaining a healthy relationship, I believe. It seems to me that the reason older couples find themselves unhappy is because, in the everyday hustle and bustle, it’s easy to forget to say those three words with meaning.
It’s certainly easy to take one another for granted, but perhaps half of the “work” people think they need to do in a relationship could be eliminated if they just remembered to say those words with a smile. – Rosella Eleanor LaFevre