This is our “Love Lessons” column. Every week, we publish a mini-essay (100-250 words) about a single thing that can make or break a relationship. To submit your own entry, email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Communication has truly evolved. We have so many ways to express ourselves and connect. From Facebook and Twitter, to blogging and texting, we can instantly reach out and say what’s on our minds. But just because we can, doesn’t mean we should. Instant communication may not be the best medium, especially where romantic relationships are concerned. One small text can turn one small issue into the mother lode of all fights. No matter how many smiley faces or little hearts you add in, texts are often misconstrued because they lack that face-to-face interaction where you pick up on emotion, body language, humour, and so many other subtleties for which we humans are known. If something is important enough to discuss, it should be important enough to wait until you are able to have an in-person conversation. While it may be difficult sometimes to broach certain topics or discuss your feelings, face-to-face communication gives you what every relationship needs: connection. Eyes, faces, bodies, emotions : no smiley faces or little hearts needed because it’s all there in front of you. Plus, when it comes to making up, I’d pick a real kiss over a virtual one any day. – Brenda LePage